Growth

 Every moment of one's existence, one is growing into more or retreating into less   Norman Mailer

I want to grow into more and I don't just mean my pants size!

As I am starting and tending seeds this week, I couldn't help but think about growth. I can't say that I have built bridges or saved starving orphans from fire in my life, but I have tried, throughout my whole personhood I have tried to grow as a human being.

I think back when I went to college.  I was completely socially awkward and inept.  I had no social skills.  I didn't have a clue who I was.  I was human Jello, molding myself into whatever I thought anyone wanted me to be. 

I don't know what stirred me to look at personal growth.  I think it started with the desire to fit in better and to learn some social skills.  I am a curious person, and that curiosity has grown as I age.  I believe my growth started by observing other people.  What they thought, how they acted and what they said and did.  A big part of my growth occurred in college. That people could be different from me without being wrong.  Suspending judgment was a big component of my growth.  Holding judgement and being willing to listen to other points of view.  I didn't grow up with that so that was my first big leap.

The second big leap came with being stressed at work.  I got into management which requires dealing with people, so I started reading books and listening to cassette tapes on how to control stress and manage people.  

Another big leap came with unhappiness in my marriage and that led me to look at myself and what role I was playing.  If I had the money, I spent on self-help books through the years I could have retired 5 years earlier.  From those books I began to look at how I grew up and how that formed me as a person.  It allowed me to look at my responses in a different way.  Was I reacting out of a childhood reflex or was I responding as a rational adult who is conscious of my ethics and values and the effect that my action has on others.

It is an evolution for sure.  Each step leading to growth of my character and values.  I know I have grown in compassion and my ability to forgive.  At this point I have moved on from self-help-did that quite some time ago-along with looking for that recipe for happiness.  Now I read books by spiritual leaders and from their ideas put thought into how I can grow as a person of character and compassion both for myself and to share with others. 

So, the question is now, what have I learned that I can translate into action that sparks joy in my life and opens me to give joy to others?  What are action steps within my values that will move me forward?

Spirit-solitude, connection with the divine, prayer, nature, meditation, gratitude

Authenticity- truth, integrity, knowing my intention, being present

Connection-family, friends, community, nature, spirit

Contentment- order, organization-home and finances, security

Creativity- growth, learning interest, adventure

Health- being comfortable in my own skin, strong, vibrant

Kindness- unconditional acceptance, seeing the light in all I meet, knowing others are doing the best they can 

My mission is to connect with Spirit so I in turn live authentically, creatively and vibrantly while offering unconditional acceptance to others.